Tattoos are how I mark states of being and "staple" my sense of self into my body - the first one, the bite mark, is in a very real way the first baby step I took to transitioning. It was the first time I felt good about something about myself, and now, a couple years later on estrogen, and a bunch more tattoos (and even more planned), I feel good about so many things.
I don't think it's a coincidence that so many things that are counterculture or taboo in society are exactly the things that help people feel a sense of bodily autonomy. I'm sure there are links to capitalism here, but more deeply I think it's about jealousy and hate.
Jealousy from generational trauma that denied our parents and grandparents ad nausem their own (bodily) autonomy, so they projected that onto us so we wouldn't pursue it ourselves, queer or not.
Hate partially stems from the jealousy, but people are also taught to hate these things by many, many social institutions which demand obedience. Religion is one such institution for many, especially evangelical religions, but is not the only such institution. Class structures frequently use things like prohibitions or mandatory body modifications as a way of co-opting what would otherwise be a sense of freedom.
Bodily autonomy is dangerous to systems of control and obedience, because it's the root of freedom of thought, or at least that's what my years of doing trauma work have taught me. When you have time and ability to decide what to do with yourself, you start to form a deeper connection with yourself and others because it's actually safe to do so.
And I think this is sad on many levels. So, don't be sad go get a tattoo.
(This originally appeared as a set of separate posts on girlcock.club. I've edited and combined them into one post now.)
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